“I will never forgive him!”
All of us, at some point in our lives, have been hurt and wounded by the actions or words of others. However, such grievances turns into resentment and hostility which can run so deep, that forgiveness becomes very difficult, and we feel we have a right to our indignation!
Therefore – what is forgiveness? And what is its significance in relationships and most importantly in our lives?
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do for someone else. Instead, it dares you to imagine a better future, one that is based on the blessed possibility, that it is not the end of the world. It challenges you to give up your adversity about the past and to believe in the possibility of a better future. Moreover, it builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it.
Forgiveness is the experience of finding peace inside.
Learn to look for and appreciate the love, beauty and kindness around you. It’s there, and you may have to change your thinking and behavior to discover it. To have compassion for others, you must first have compassion for yourself. As I have said in one of my previous posts, that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself too.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive
– Mother Teresa.
Forgiveness makes us think what our priorities are. Does keeping the grudge mean more than keeping the relationship? It’s better to let go of the grudge rather than the relation that took so many years in the making.
To err is human; to forgive, Divine
– Alexander Pope
Just like the saying above states, every human makes errors and mistakes. But forgiving them for those mistakes, is something divine. Not every human can forgive. And especially if you are in that position to make someone suffer or pay for their mistakes, but instead you choose to forgive them, then that is definitely a sign of divinity.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
– Mahatma Gandhi
Forgiving someone else is to agree within yourself to overlook the wrong they have committed against you and to move on with your life. Some think it is surrendering to the other person. No, it is not surrendering. Because, forgiveness is the key to your own happiness. It can bring a sense of peace and well-being in your life. When we forgive, we are willing to give up resentment, revenge and obsession. Moreover, we are willing to restore faith not only in ourselves, but in life itself, and that is the most significant quality to have for a happy, content life. It takes moral courage, ends the illusion of separation, and its power can change misery into happiness in an instant.
Thus, give yourself the gift of forgiveness. The word forgiveness itself is built on the root word give.
So give. live. elevate.
Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it
– Mark Twain